This week’s guest blog comes from the very lovely Attachment Girl from the blog Tales of a Boundary Ninja and is a response to this previous guest post.
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Top five reasons therapy is a love/hate relationship
#1: My therapist is incredibly steadfast.
Love:
No matter what I discuss or where I am emotionally, he is
consistent in his demeanor and reactions to me. Last vacation or my
sexual attraction to him, same guy. This makes me feel safe to speak
about anything I need to knowing things will stay under control.
Hate:
He NEVER changes or gives any clue to how things are going in
his life. An occasional reaction would be nice. I have threatened to
throw things at him because he will not argue with me. No idea how HIS
life is going. This can be frustrating. (An understatement equivalent
to “the Atlantic Ocean is damp.”)
#2: My Therapist has very clear, strong boundaries.Love:
The rules do not change and he is capable of saying no, so I can trust
his yes. The boundaries form the safe space in which I am free to move
in any way I wish. I’m safe because he will not cross those
boundaries in an inappropriate way; what happens in his office is all
that happens.
Hate:
They drive me crazy and at times are very painful. Really dude? Will
the universe cease to exist if we hugged or talked about your feelings
or saw each other someplace else? (I am sticking my fingers in my ears
and saying LA LA LA LA LA if you are telling me I need them.)
#3: My Therapist lets therapy be all about my feelings.
Love:
He keeps his own feelings out of the room giving me a safe place
to learn who I am and what I want without getting tangled up in
someone else’s stuff. He remains non-defensive which allows me to
explore all of my feelings and behaviors, even the not so pretty ones.
It’s a place where the only person I have to worry about is me; not a
familiar feeling.
Hate:
Again, drives me nuts!!!! What do you mean I can’t know you
fully? That’s not fair! What, you can’t talk about how you’re feeling
about this incredibly intimate relationship and what’s going on?
That’s not fair!
#4: My Therapist understands his importance to me.
Love:
He is cognizant of how very important and central he is to me and
takes that responsibility very seriously.
Hate:
He KNOWS how important he is to me and why I want what I want and
still says no! There’s no excuse, he gets my feelings. I can’t believe
he lets a little thing, like it being impossible, get in the way.
#5: My Therapist Loves Me
Love:
Wonderful stuff; I truly know he wants what is best for me. I always
feared that if someone knew me on this level, they would be repulsed
and leave. His staying is an incredible gift.
Hate:
Seriously, I’m going to hate anything about that? 
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Thank you AG – you’re a star
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attachmentgirl
/ August 15, 2012Reblogged this on Tales of a Boundary Ninja and commented:
The very funny and talented WG has graciously allowed me to guest blog. If you’re not familiar with the hilarity which is Therapy Tales, you’re in for a treat!
chewingtaffy
/ August 15, 2012Love: this is SO TRUE!!
Hate: this is so true!
Diana
/ August 15, 2012Beautifully, honestly written! I love it! Some of it I’ve experienced, some I haven’t, and this is very insightful anyway. I like how you see both sides of the story, the good and the bad about the very same thing.